National Side Chick Day? Yes…this is really happening!

By Ciara Rouege

HOUSTON — It’s clear the term “significant other” has a whole new meaning amongst the millennial generation — it’s definitely become a lot more literal these days. Yes, we’re talking about the real significant “others” in some people’s lives, otherwise known as side chicks and side pieces.

National Side Chick Day is not on any official registries, and there’s a bit of back-and-forth on whether to celebrate the day on Feb. 13 or Feb. 15, but the sentiment is always the same: get romantic time in with your main person, or spouse, on Valentine’s Day and then catch up with your side piece the day before or after.

Sugar babies, mistresses and secret lover boys have been around for centuries, but it wasn’t until the last five years or so that having a “lil’ somethin’ on the side” became somewhat of a standard practice in the modern dating scene. It’s become so standard that many have set aside a day for cheaters to recognize their other snuggle buddies.

In the liberal spirit of egalitarianism, we can drop the “chick” and call it National Side Piece Day. It’d be sexist to assume a woman can’t have a midnight friend, or that an undercover boyfriend isn’t seeking lavish appreciation.

It’s a running joke that side pieces don’t get much play on Valentine’s Day, but National Side Chick Day could gain some momentum. Of course, if it does…it’s presumably going to be on the down-low.

If the idea of a National Side Chick Day has you almost ready to pass out, check out this ‘How to become a Side Chick’ guide on the popular DIY site WikiHow that has us in stitches!

Note: This article was first published Feb. 13, 2017 on the CW39.com

Girl, that RING! Astros Carlos Correa celebrates World Series win with on-field proposal

By Ciara Monet Rouege

HOUSTON — The Houston Astros finally earned history Wednesday after demolishing the Dogers 5-1 in Game 7 of the World Series. While fans in Los Angeles and back at home in Houston were overwhelmed with excitement, no one had a bigger smile than Carlos Correa and his soon-to-be wife.

The Astros shortstop surprised his girlfriend, Daniella Rodriguez, with a marriage proposal on live television.

“And right now I’m about to take another big step in my life,” the player said to a reporter before reaching into his pocket and turning around. “Daniella Rodriguez, you’ve made me the luckiest man in the world. Will you marry me?”

Rodriguez, who is the 2016 Miss Texas USA, broke out in tears as she pushed through a field barrier to Correa.

The answer was yes!

The couple engaged in a loving kiss and embrace before Correa slid a gorgeous diamond ring onto his fiance’s finger.

Definitely, our close to first favorite moment of the World Series.

This article was originally published on the CW39 Houston website on Nov. 2, 2017.

Cuffing, breadcrumbing, lovebombing: Is millennial dating slang really shaking up the love game?

By Ciara Rouege

HOUSTON — With cuffing season in full effect, romance is definitely in the air! But for millennial singles, the air may be just a little bit shadier.

Benchingbreadcrumbinglovebombing and stashing are just a few terms today’s young people are using to describe their relationships. Of course, to most Gen. X-ers and Baby Boomers these words can sound like straight up gibberish. For example, do you know what about ghosting? To close the communication gap between the generation, NewsFix hunt down the definitions this modern lovers slang.


Millennial Dating Slang Cheat Sheet 

Cuffing Season: Finding a family-appropriate holiday hook-up to take home for the holidays.

Stashing: When an unmarried person keeps a relationship hidden away for whatever reason.

LovebombingOverwhelming a partner with attention and gifts.

Ghosting: Cutting off all contact with a lover.

Haunting: When an old flame pops up in your social media feed seemingly out of nowhere

Netflix ‘n’ ChillInviting a love interest over to watch Netflix, but both parties know they’re meeting up to have sex.

BreadcrumbingLeading a person on without fully committing friendship or relationship.

Benching: Telling a person you want a relationship, even going as far as setting up dates, but never seeming to follow through.


Dr. Norma Ngo is a licensed psychologist and certified sex therapist. She believes these trendy terms come from a dating scene sped up by social media, dating apps and digital dating services.

“I don’t think the practices are necessarily new: ghosting…breadcrumbing…benching,” Ngo said. “People get out of relationships. People have backups. That’s been going on for a long time.”

And new terms are born each day as dating continues to go digital among young people.

According to the Pew Research Center, the number of singles aged 18 to 24 using online services and apps to find love tripled from 10 percent in 2013 to almost 30 percent in 2015. On the flip side, 23 percent of people in a 2013 study said singles who used online dating sties were ‘desperate.’

Ouch!

“I think the only term that I would say is probably newer with millennials is haunting— only because that’s more of an online thing,” Ngo said.

Younger players, same old game

These terms may be unheard of to most, but are the practices behind them a millennial thing? Residents we talked to at the Brookdale Tanglewood Assisted Senior Living Home in Houston said no way!

So what’s up with breadcrumbing? We now know it’s when you lead a person on, but Dorothy Meehan says that’s nothing new.

“Yeah, they have been doing that since the beginning—throwing out those breadcrumbs like Hansel and Gretel,” she said.

We asked her Meehan’s husband Bob, if he knew what stashing was.

“Stashing away something? A place to put it that nobody knows,” He responded.

Well, sort of. In today’s dating 101, stashing is when an unmarried person is in a relationship, but they’re keeping it kind of hidden for whatever reason.

“You didn’t keep it a secret that much. If your friends didn’t know, somebody knew,” Bob said.

In some ways, John Wise said millennials have it a bit easier than singles had it in his day.  He told said when a person see someone they might be interested in, they just search for them online to find out more about them.

When John first spotted his future wife, Gail, he wasn’t able to catch her name. To find her, John jotted down the license number of the car she was riding in, next had a police buddy run the plates— and then VIOLA! He had a phone number to call her.

Hoping her family wouldn’t find it strange, he kindly asked Gail’s aunt if he could take her out on a date.  Now wouldn’t it have been easier just to send a friend request? Well that wasn’t an option in the 1960s.

You had to show a little more initiative!

“Go ahead and do your thing, whatever you need to get the person you want,” John said.

It’s also important to point out that while most Baby Boomers and Gen. X-ers were getting married in their late teens and early 20s, today’s singles are tying the knot much later in life.

So what are millennials actually doing different?

According to the National Marriage Project in 2013, today’s women are walking down the isle at 27 years old while men are getting married at 29 on average. Researchers said it’s a number that continues to rise with each coming generation.

Millennials are also different in that these singles oft get through the “opening stages” of a relationship online before investing in-person.

“A lot of this stuff is done before you meet the person through texting— actually through the app— and then you get to the texting-talking stage,” Ngo said. “And then there’s very quickly, getting to the sexual intimacy part of it.”

Haunting and Netflix ‘n’ chill are catchy phrases, but are some of these practice dangerous? Dr. Ngo said you may want to take it slow with lovebombers.

“[Lovebombing] is when someone very quickly attaches to you and show you with a lot of attention and gifts— and demands a lot of your attention. The moment you decide you want to spend time with someone else— or talk to someone else — they really have a problem with that,” Ngo said. “When people start to feel that it’s controlling, then it’s out of balance and not healthy. And in some cases it can be borderline abusive.”

Each generation has like to put it’s own spin on dating slang, but we can all learn a few lesson from the more experienced lovers. Both the Wises and the Meehans have been married for 56 years— so they know a thing or two!

Because while the players may change— the love game will always be the same!

This article was originally posted to the CW39 Houston website on Nov. 2, 2017.

What’s Mine is Yours…Sometimes: But the Sex is Good Podcast [Episode 1]

It had been more than six months since Chris and I decided to create a sex and relationship podcast. Finally, we ran out of excuses Sunday and just clicked record!

Faced with an infinite list of topics to cover, we thought it would be good to start with the basis of most relationships: sharing.

Sharing a life with a person can be an endearing experience…but sometimes it can also be a tight pinch in the ass. In our first episode, we discuss a wide — and I mean WIDE — range of sharing scenarios from toothbrushes to money to intimacy in an open relationship.

But the Sex is Good Podcast: What’s Mine is Yours…Sometimes [Episode One]

It’s only our first podcast, but we’d love to know what you think. What topics should we cover? In what ways could we improve? Also, be sure to like our page on Facebook!

Here’s a link to articles mentioned in the episode:

The Four Stages of Sharing a Bathroom With a Significant Other: bit.ly/2vVXL95

My Boyfriend’s Other Girlfriend Just Had A Baby, And That’s OK: bit.ly/2vDdaZ8

RANT: Women & Clinical Sex

By Ciara Rouege

The Vagina Monologues is my favorite book about feminine sexuality. Nothing beats a woman bitching about a vagina being frustrated with pap smears. Living a sexual life is like a getting a never ending pap smear for women. It’s uncomfortable. It’s awkward the first time. There are always more people involved than you would like. And as most of the world is figuring out, it never really accomplishes what it is meant to do.

I could tell you about the first time I had sex, but I’m not. I will tell you about the first time I got a pap smear. Actually, I didn’t start visiting the gynecologist until this year. I started going because the pediatrician’s first question to me was always, “Oh, is you’re daughter in the restroom?” And second; you can only be in college for so long, still convincing your parents you’re a virgin. So junior year I stained the proverbial white wedding dress and scheduled an appointment for the gynecologist. Basically, I only had it once in my entire life. The pap smear— not sex.

The doctor is an Indian man, who makes punny jokes about my significant weight gain. He’s tall. He’s cute, and has the faintest accent. He tells me to take off my clothes and throws me a backless robe. He’ll be right back. Soon enough, I’m on my back with my legs resting on cold metal stirrups. He keeps telling me to relax, and stop clinching.

“I can tell you’re clinching because they’re little dimples on your butt,” he said and then grinned. In the Vagina Monologues, an older woman talks about dreaming of beautiful flowers during sex. I try thinking about flowers, but I can’t hear my thoughts over the loud crunch of the parchment paper sliding under me. I admire the women who can drift away during this. Not during the pap smear— during sex.

This pap smear is the most I’ll think about my vagina until the university does a performance of the Monologues in the spring. The Monologues aren’t a fun conversation about the vagina. It’s just a reminder 1 in 4 girls are raped, and most women are sexually assaulted by a family member. It ends with a guilt trip about feeling safe in the US, while millions of women across the world are slaves to sex trafficking and war.

In Superbad, chubby Jonah Hill doodles various costumed dicks in class. It’s freaking hilarious! Women don’t assert their sexuality in the way men do. How many tastefully drawn vaginas did your eighth grade art teacher have to erase from the whiteboard?  In fact, most drawings just look like dried prunes. In Scare the Teens into Abstinence 101— ergh, health education class— the teacher shows you gruesome pictures of vaginas.

We have a word for women who talk happily and frequently about sex: whores. God bless the day we start having happy conversations about female sexuality.